Move in closer.

Pose & Held Gifts : *!R.O!* 'Tis the Season

Props : Gifts on table : {moss&mink}  All that Glitters - Gift Pile (classic) @ The Arcade

Table : {anc} NOEL. :  feather table (Gacha)

Rug :  {anc}  NOEL. :  frilled furrug  (Gacha)

Stool :  {anc} NOEL. :  hoofs ladder chair (Gacha)

Candles : {moss&mink}  All that Glitters - Candle Red @ The Arcade

Frame : BALACLAVA!! Milton Gold Frame

Fireplace : ChiMia:: Ephemeral Fireplace 

Tree :  {anc} NOEL. :  tears tree / 9Li RARE (Gacha)

Pup, Sled & Reindeer : O.M.E.N -Christmas Morning @ Tannenbaum 

"Don't get your tinsel in a tangle!"

I understand that this season means different things depending on your religion and culture, and I'm okay with wishing people "Happy Holidays" or "Seasons Greetings" if it means they feel included, because ultimately, that's what this season is all about.

I also think it has a lot to do with being kind, giving not receiving and if you do receive, receive gracefully and gratefully.

I don't think it takes much to be a pleasant human. Maybe a little more effort, and though I'll be first to admit I've made bunches of mistakes in the past, I'm going forward with the notion that it's worth the effort. We just need to know when to draw the line, which for me is a constant work in progress. 

Please take this as an opportunity to love each other, to pass on the spirit of joy and happiness to those around you. Winter can be a tough season to get through, and sometimes it's easy to fall into a grumpiness or a depression, so remember that when you're talking to people. There's so many reasons to be sad, or melancholy. Be the reason for someone to smile today.

All of the things, SantiClaus : 

Body & Hands : [SIGNATURE] Gianni - Mesh Body 

Skin : Tableau Vivant \\ Fabio applier 

Head :  CATWA HEAD Daniel

Eyes : -SU!- Lythion Eyes

Hairbase : Stealthic - Male Hairbase

Hair :   Stealthic  - Like Lust

Ears : L'Etre - Ringed mesh ears

Tattoo : Isuka : Drifter

Undies :  Mossu - Kevin.Underwear

All of the things, Pickle : 

Body, Hands & Feet : Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara

Skin : Essences - Rachel 

Head : CATWA Catya

Eyes : CATWA Mesh Eyes 

Eyes :  LOTUS. Lovely Eyes @ The Chapter Four

Brows : Viena :: Perfect Eyebrows Grey @ Bodyfy 

Blush : Izzie's - Winter Blush (Former Gift)

Ears :  ^^Swallow^^  Pyramid Ears

Lipstick : [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier - Glossy Pout

Hair :  #Foxy- Mondaze.

Antlers : Astralia - Funny holidays gacha (the holidays deer) RARE (Gacha)

Tattoo : DAPPA - Sasuke Tattoo. @ Man Cave

Panties : .:villena:. - Red Thong  (Group gift)

Lights : :Moon Amore: FALALALA Socks&Lights @ Collabor88

Socks : fame femme: Winter socks - Maitreya - RARE (Gacha) @ Liaison Collaborative

I choose to believe.

Pose : *!R.O!* Renew BENTO Pose (Note, this pose comes with a bird, I just swapped it out)

Robin : MishMish - Robins in the snow 

Location : Luane's World

Spoons.

Many of my friends know and understand the term and I feel like it should be a universal term for, well, everyone.

The original article is >here< and it's written in relation to Lupus. However, I feel like it should be noted that no matter who you are, you have a limited amount of spoons, daily.

The basic gist of the article is that you need a physical representation of the amount of energy you use each day. This could be spoons... this could be coins, basically, anything you can easily find multiples of. Each day, you are assigned a certain amount of "spoons". Let's say today, you have 12. That's a fair amount of spoons! Now what are you going to do with them?

For every activity you do today, you're going to give a spoon away.

Got out of bed? I'll take a spoon.

Brushed your teeth? I'll take another.

Showered? More spoons!

Gotten dressed? Yep. That'll be a spoon, please.

And the day kinda goes on like this.

The idea is to end up with no spoons, and no activities left to do. If you run out of spoons but for example, still need to take the rubbish out of the house, or a friend calls around unexpectedly and you have to act as a host for a while, you can borrow against your spoons for the next day - but that's going to leave you with less activities available for you tomorrow.. so you need to be extra careful you're not running on empty!

Sometimes, you have to do just that, which kind of leaves you in a difficult position.

Do you continue trying to do everything? Or do you take a rest-day and recover your spoons?

I love the idea of this "Spoon Theory". For me (and many around me) it makes mental illness, pain management & general day-to-day life so much easier to explain. Within my little group of people, if we're not in the mood to talk, we just use the term "I don't have enough spoons today", and we instantly understand each other and give the space that's needed, or offer support if necessary.

I like to think you can earn spoons back, too. Say you ask for help, maybe it's something as simple as you're hurting when you're putting your coat on, or you have a nagging issue you'd like some advice with. Having someone to help you with your coat, or offer a friendly ear could be a way of making you feel better, and thus grasping at a shiny new spoon to spend elsewhere that day.

It's really helped me in terms of having people understand why sometimes I just can't people. Hopefully, it'll help you, too.

All of the things :

Body, Hands & Feet : Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara

Skin : Essences - Rachel 

Head : CATWA Catya

Eyes : CATWA Mesh Eyes 

Eyes :  LOTUS. Lovely Eyes @ The Chapter Four

Brows : Viena :: Perfect Eyebrows Brown @ Bodyfy 

Blush : Izzie's - Winter Blush (Former Gift)

Ears Hairband : Included with the +Spellbound+ Honey hair

Hair : Tableau Vivant \\ December @ Collabor88

Collar : Kenvie - Gold Ring Choker - Brown (You can get a version of this collar FREE @ Consent!)

Dress & Cardigan : =Zenith=Cardigan Sweater with Shirt Dress @ Kustom9 (Opens 15th Dec) (Note : If you have ANY type of boobs, this dress is going to flatten them. I mean pancake flat.)

Nails : Astralia - Compatible mesh nails system

NailPolish : alme.   Fall Palette II - Shiny 

Rings : Amala - The Lumi Stacking Rings 

Bracelet/Watch : E-Clipse Fiocco Watch (Former Gift)