Holler!

Pose : *!R.O!* Dayum BENTO Friend Pose

Background : BellePoses - Backdrop Fire Escape

Mal is wearing Sleepy Eddy_Hoodie&Cardigan @ TMD

Today I was reminded about a thing that happened back when I started SL over 10 years ago.

Back in the day, you were warned consistently about the dangers of the internet. "You might be talking to an axe murderer, a pedophile, a rapist." it was scary to me to log in and speak to people who might be absolutely terrible. I was also in the middle of a big ol' break up, 500 miles away from home with a small child and no way to get back. I didn't like myself very much and because of that, when I joined SL, I gave out pictures of a person that was not me.

Over time, it became harder and harder to tell fibs to people I cared about. because you really don't expect to start feeling real feels for people on a game when you first start using it, do you? You don't understand that these people you meet aren't imaginary, they're real... with real lives that they might share with you, while you're sat there telling a porkie pie to them. You get to know them, and all the while you have this big black cloud hanging over you,  "What if they work out I'm not me?".

I'm incredibly lucky. Of course, when I came clean there were a few people who dragged me, and rightly so - however, they didn't actually know me, and I had always felt a little off around them. 

The people I DID care about (and some that I had no idea even knew who I was), were incredibly supportive, and now I realize that my outer shell is what it is, and I can't change that - but my inner shell... that's the important part, and if I can find people who love me for my insides, those are the friendships and relationships I need to nurture.

To anyone going through something similar, keep your head up and be proud of who you really are. You are not your body. You are a combination of every experience, every feeling you have and every feeling you have allowed others to feel.. you're a beautiful, interesting, original and unique soul. No one is you (even if they claim to be by using your pictures!), and try to remember that everyone is going through something, and while being a catfish isn't right, there are often underlying issues that need addressing and as with most situations, it should be bought up and talked about with mindfulness & kindness.

xoxo

Here's a slightly better picture of the Birth skin still available at TMD for a little while. Hurry up, before this round closes! 

All of the things : 

Body: [SIGNATURE] Gianni - Mesh Body

Skin : *Birth* 'Benjamin' Catwa @ TMD

Head :  CATWA HEAD Daniel

Eyes : -SU!- Ophelia Eyes Fatpack /ULTRARARE/ (Gacha)

Ears : L'Etre - Basic mesh ears 

Beard : [MF] Daniel Bento Faded Hipster Stache & Beard @ TMD

Hair : Modulus - Nial Hair @ TMD

Tattoo : { Speakeasy } Bloodthirsty Tattoo @ TMD

Jacket : BlankLine Shirts+High-necked  @ TMD

Pants : RIOT / Bronn Chino Jeans @ TMD

It's my pride.

Pose : [InDiGO] Male bento pose gift

Background : Trompe Loeil - Margaux Photo Backdrop + Surround @ FaMESHed

Just a Man-Pickle Quickie today (snickers, that sounds so dirty!).

The Men's Dept opens up today at midday (TMD), and there are SO many options available this month my little heart squee'd! Yes, I know that's not very manly, but underneath this pretty-boy exterior I'm still just regular Lady-Pickle, and I really couldn't help it.

It hit me that i've never actually done a 'proper' close up of Man-Pickle, and I decided that's exactly what he needed. Luckily, this Birth skin provided the perfect base for that. I was incredibly pleasantly surprised by the skin, Birth used to be my go-to for man-skins back before the introduction of mesh heads and bodies, and for a moment I thought maybe they had dropped the ball, or perhaps even left SL (Gasp!). Thankfully, they're still going strong, and have just proved to me that some long-standing stores are still worth exploring, and you shouldn't rule them out for good! The body is actually really nice too. There's some super-sexy sinewy arm muscles, and the torso and back are pretty much shaded perfectly. The only tiny issue I have is that once you get to their darker tones, they seem to loose a certain depth of detail, but I can't imagine how difficult it is to make skins in the first place, so kudos to them for designing a palette suitable for many!

Whatever Modulus is doing with his hair he needs to continue. For reals, this one is SO perfect I nearly fell off my chair. The subtle babyhair at the front is amaze, I love that it blends so easily in with his hairbases and I can't help feeling like this is another store I have left under-rated for a while, but NO MORE! Modulus, step up and collect your Man-Pickle prize! (I don't know what it is, don't really. I'm entirely unprepared!)

As usual, more details below! ♥

All of the things : 

Body, Hands & Feet : [SIGNATURE] Gianni - Mesh Body 

Skin & Facial hair : *Birth* 'Miller' Catwa @ TMD 

Head :  CATWA HEAD Stanley 

Eyes :  LOTUS. Cosmic Eyes 18 MYSTERY RARE (Gacha) @ Pocket Gacha

Ears : ^^Swallow^^ Rox Ears

Hairbase :  Modulus - from another hair pack, may or may not be included with purchase of Carl hair, demo first!

Hair : Modulus - Carl Hair @ TMD 

Necklace : [ kunst ] - Christoph necklace @ TMD 

Shirt : {COLD-ASH} Mens MESH COLSON Henley Shirt (Classic Pack) @ TMD 

Ring : [CX] Horny Skull Ring @ TMD 

Do you remember?

Pose : <K&S> ~Leonard~ Poses 3, 1

Props : Fapple- The Traveler @  @ The Mens Dept.

All of the things : 

Body & Hands : [SIGNATURE] Gianni - Mesh Body

Skin : *Birth* 'Hades' Catwa Scarred @ The Mens Dept.

Head :  CATWA HEAD Stanley 

Eyes : Go&See * Hurt * Catwa Eyes @ The Dark Style Fair 

Ears : [MANDALA]SIMPLE_EARS_HUTUU

Hair base : Stealthic - Male Hairbase 

Hair : Stealthic- Narcotic 

Tattoo : DAPPA - Genji Tattoo. @ The Man Cave 

Outfit : {COLD-ASH} Mens MESH DEAN Chinos &  HEMSWORTH Tucked Shirt 

Shoes : not so bad . mesh . DARIO shoes . blue leather