Out of love.

Pose :  Ana Poses - It's ok It's ok It's ok @ TMD

Background : WR - Vernor Vinge

I'm sorta kinda loving this picture! Durex and Pickle make the most adorable couple!
I wanted to talk quickly about the use of animare on poses.
If you don't know what animare is, you can find it listed on MP >HERE< and though I'm sure there's many things you can do with the version linked, all I use it for is to modify poses slightly.
For example, in the above picture, Durex's hand was pushed into Pickle's head far too much, but with a couple of animare tweaks, it popped out and the pose was saved.
Please note, this doesn't mean that the pose is broken, or doesn't work... each pose is made with the specific body-type of the pose maker & advertiser in mind and you as a consumer are expected to modify your shape to fit or not buy the pose at all. Demoing poses IS important if you are unprepared to do this! Being that in SL we are all now capable of having a variety of shapes and a myriad of bodies are used, tools such as Animare come in very handy for photography and modelling purposes, and on investigating marketplace it seems like there's a new option that will allow you to modify a models pose too... so I might look into that for the future!
Anywho, go explore the things!
xoxo

All the things, Durex :

Body: [SIGNATURE] Gianni - Mesh Body

Skin : Not Found - Robert Skin 

Head :  CATWA HEAD Skell

Hair : Vango. Alex

Tattoo : DAPPA - Valak Tattoo @ TMD

All the things, Pickle :

Body, Hands & Feet : Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara

Skin : Lara Hurley- Beth

Head : CATWA Lona

Hair : DOUX - Grande Hairstyle 
Tattoo : DAPPA - Valak Tattoo @ TMD
Panties : From the BBD - Scarlett Lingerie Set

Make me cry.

Pose : FOXCITY. Good Morning-7m

Background : wr - D....I....S....C.....Oh

I wasn't entirely sure what I was going to write here today (as usual, I suppose), but I decided to pick up on the Dappa Scars set and open a dialogue that I think is glossed over quite regularly.

There's a pretty big difference between self-harm and masochism.

From a personal standpoint, I find it difficult to understand either of these actions, but I am aware they exist, and where the Dappa tattoos may look beautiful in terms of SL, they would be extremely scary for me to witness on a friend irl.

I'm pretty ignorant to all of this, honestly - and please read the following knowing I am not an expert, but this is merely an opinion.

Self-harm is usually a way to feel, to keep control of a world that is spinning wildly on it's axis. It's about relief or a distraction to stop you from overthinking a certain subject. I'm sure there are many more reasons for hurting yourself, but ultimately it's a means to peace, no matter how brief. I can't say I agree, but I will attempt to be sensitive to those who self-harm while suggesting they seek some kind of help, even if it's just opening up to someone on a regular basis.

With masochism, it's an enjoyment of the pain. It's not about hurting yourself through shame or lack of control, but because the pain is erotic, or serves a purpose. Masochists will often hook up with people who enjoy inflicting this kind of pain, Sadists. The relationship between these two kinds of people can be pretty explosive from what I gather, but please be aware this is entirely different to abuse. Consent will feature highly on the agenda of the couple, and the pain is not inflicted so that the Masochist feels worthless or less than, in fact it's very often a way of showing love and affection.

I realize this isn't for everyone, and honestly, you approach me with a razorblade, a knife or ask no matter how politely, to punch me in the face and I WILL run away as fast as possible, however I do respect that some people need this type of a relationship to function.

The only, only reason I mentioned any of this is because I don't want it to be "cool" to cut. 

It's not cool. It's very uncool.

There is also a very fine line between S&M and abuse, and if you feel negatively about the type of relationship you're in, please think carefully before you allow it to continue.

Wishing you a safe, sane and consensual Saturday.

xoxo

Go&See has produced a fantastic new skin for catwa - called "Isla".

It's available in two exclusive tones - Witchy and Moonly along with a usual tone, Pale.

I absolutely love all of these tones, there are very slight differences - pale is definitely more pink, witchy has a slightly greeny-blue undertone and moonly is more luminous.

All of the things : 

Body : Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body  

Skin : Go&See * Isla * @ The Fantasy Collective

Head : CATWA Catya

Ears : ^^Swallow^^ Noldor Elf Ear

Hair : Blues. Nori 

Collar : -Narcisse- Querencia Collar

 Tattoo/Scars : DAPPA - Daddy's Scars. @ Equal10

Sweater : Tee*fy Winnie Slouchy Sweater  

Panties : From the BigBeautifulDoll - SUSANNE Mesh Lingerie Set

Socks : .tsg. Prissy Ruffle Socks 

Shoes : #SHOOK - Kadie Heels @ Access

Can't stay.

Pose : *!R.O!* Holding On BENTO Pose

Background & Props : {moss&mink} Deep Desires @ Epiphany

Includes :{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Toys Shelf (Black)

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Twinkle Gems (Red)

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Art Print (3)

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Gothicorn Buttplug

I'm visualizing here. It's a technique I've picked up from my hours of netflixing, youtubing and generally attempting to think positively about life.

The idea of visualizing is seeing yourself in the future, doing the thing you love. Having the relationships you want. Finding the contentment you long for.

 Although I'm not heavily into D/s I do believe in a lot of the values that come along with it.. and believe that there are certain things that should be discussed before taking any sort of relationship to a next level. 

Honesty. Respect. Consent. Loyalty. Commitment.

Those are just five words we often throw around without much thought, and without thinking through the consequences. Much like D/s those words mean different things to different people, and it's important to understand where your partner is coming from when you're making decisions.

So often, I see facebook posts from people who have thrown themselves into new relationships and have opened themselves up too quickly, backing down on what they want because someone has shown them a form of affection that they might be able to understand and identify. So many times I watch as the same patterns emerge - patterns that my own relationships have mirrored - and it breaks my heart that the people involved - beautiful people, capable and worthy of love and loving, are hurt because they haven't taken the time to really get to know the person they coupled with.

So, my Pickle-ism for the day is take your time.

Hopefully, I'll take my own advice next time, too.

xoxo

All of the things : 

Body Hands & Feet: -Belleza- Freya

Head : LeLutka Bento Head-CHLOE 3.0

Skin : #Boataom :: Albina AF Lelutka Applier 

Eyes : [ Conviction ] Downer Eyes (ESSENTIALS) /RARE/ @ Epiphany

Ears : ^^Swallow^^ Ears Elf HD

Hair : +Spellbound+ Viper @ The Chapter 4

Collar : {moss&mink} Deep Desires - Collar @ Epiphany

Tattoo : DAPPA - Zagan Tattoo. @ Equal10

Cuffs : {moss&mink} Deep Desires - Cuffs @ Epiphany

Panties : BBD - SAVANNAH Lingerie

Want some?

Pose & Cash : *!R.O!* Assets BENTO Couple Pose w/ Mesh Money

Background & Props : {moss&mink} Deep Desires @ Epiphany

Includes : {moss&mink} Deep Desires - Skybox (White) RARE

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Dance Pole (White)

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Toys Shelf (White)

{moss&mink} Deep Desires - Twinkle Gems (Pink)

I'm featuring some of my very favourite sponsors here today, the first being Moss&Mink, and although I'm aware that you can't see much of the detail involved in this Epiphany set on this post - I have all the plans to show off more of this freakin' beautiful set in future pictures.

I was lucky enough to be involved with Cielo's creative process on this set, I listened as she came up with idea's on the fly and am secretly jealous of her amazingly imaginative brain. She's a creator who will actively listen to her customer base, she'll interact and ask for opinions and will try her hardest to apply many of the suggestions she receives in updates and upcoming releases. I cannot sing her praises enough - and yes, I'm biased, because she is one of my best friends.

Dappa! I legit dragged my alt, Paloma, back into this picture specifically to show off two Dappa tattoos and this is down to the fact that the speed at which they are being produced - seriously, he's KILLING it! Not only are Dappa becoming far more prolific in terms of events, but the quality he is producing is actually improving, every time. 

Of course, the pose is from Reve Obscura. I sincerely believe that he is one of the very best bento pose makers in SL. I rarely need to adjust anything to 'fit' (I did unlink the poses here and give them a wiggle, but I think that's down to the fact that both Paloma and Pickle are thicker avatars.) For many poses, I will use animare to yank out a hand from my stomach/leg/other random body part. I can't imagine how hard it is to develop these poses for every body-type, but R.O has always come through for me!

Here - find some things in the info below!

xoxo

All of the things, Paloma.

Body : Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body  

Skin : Insol: Lily skin  Former GIFT 

Head : CATWA Lona 

Eyes : CATWA Mesh Eyes

Eyeliner : . MILA . Princess of Darkness Makeup

Hair : Besom~Pixie (Gacha)

Tattoo : DAPPA - Aloha Tattoo. (Now available in mainstore)

Lingerie : Wicca's Wardrobe - Vixen [Bound Box, October 2017] 

Nipples :  !~SV~! Nipples 

Nipple Piercings : [CX] Kinky Cobra 

Rings : (Yummy) Divinity Ring and Nail Set

All of the things, Pickle : 

Body : Slink Physique Hourglass Mesh Body  

Head : CATWA Magy

Skin : Insol: Gemma applier @ Uber

Eyes : CATWA Mesh Eyes

Eye Appliers : Go&See * Boo * Catwa Eyes

Eyebrows : Bossie. sarah eyebrows [catwa] 

Eyeshadow : Bossie. glossy eyeshadows [catwa] 

Moles & Freckles : Bossie.  freckles & beauty marks [catwa]

Lipstick : [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK - Pure Matte (Pinks)

Ears : ^^Swallow^^ Rox Ears 

Earrings : Kibitz - Hailey's pearl heart hoops @ Kustom9

Hair : little bones. Twyla 

Tattoo : DAPPA - Jade Tattoo. @ The Seasons Story

Necklace : Amala - The Alessia Necklace

Nipples : !~SV~! Nipples 

Nipple Piercings : .miss chelsea. Thea Nipple Piercing

Lingerie : BBD - SAVANNAH Lingerie 

Rings : (Yummy) Serena Rings 

Shoes : [ VERSOV ] DINAROV@ Equal10

One in a million.

Pose & Car : { Speakeasy } Body_work 2

Props : RAMA - #selfie_RAMA No Parking (Gacha)

[Bad Unicorn] 'And Chill?' Heart Pizza (Gacha)

Mike is wearing :

Body : #TheMeshProject (BETA) Deluxe

Hair : [taketomi]_Kenji_Bento (Untied)

Ears : [MANDALA]TAPER_EARS

Pants : [VALE KOER] TECHWEAR PANTS

Shoes : [VALE KOER] GRID RUNNERS ECLIPSE

All of the things :

Body & Feet : Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara 

Skin : ItGirls - Lelutka Skin Applier - Ava Summer

Head : LeLutka Bento Head-SIMONE 2.5

Eyes : LOTUS. Formation Eyes (Gacha)

Eyeshadow : Veechi - Obsession Liners

Ears : ^^Swallow^^ Gauged Ears @ The Fetish Fair 

Hair : *Besom~Bratty Baby @ Rewind

Tattoo : { Speakeasy } Sugar Rush Tattoo @ The Food Festival

Hands : -VA-F-VISTA BENTO PROHANDS 

Nails : *PL* bento nail   

Lingerie : BigBeautifulDoll - JEZEBEL Lingerie